Keep checking in
Grief support doesn't end with the shelf-life of your lasagna. - Megan Devine
Remember to keep checking in with your person as their needs will change over time.
It’s ok to use reminders to check-in.
It can be helpful to set reminders for you to reach out to your grieving friend. Add them to your calendar so you remember to touch base. Doing so doesn’t make your support less genuine.
Birthdays, anniversaries, date of diagnosis, date of death, certain holidays – any meaningful day can be especially difficult for a griever.
For some grievers, the ordinary day-to-day can be just as challenging as the big days like holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. Check-in regularly and offer to spend time together.
We might remember our grieving friend or family around the dead person's birthday or around the holiday season or around Mother's Day or Father's Day. We might come in and be like “Oh, I know Mother's Day is really hard for you.” Well, yes. Mother's Day can be hard for people who have lost a mother figure in their lives.
But, every day is hard.
Every day they're living without their mom.
So, remembering your people on the average ordinary Tuesday. You don't know that unless you check in with them.